Lamentation in the love song of J. Alfred Prufrock by T. S. Eliot

"The love song of J. Alfred Prufrock" is the lament of a man who doesn't see him being loved by a woman. As described in the poem is a middle age man but he has not yet been able to manage a woman to love him. Behind of such kind of thinking there are some reasons –this are described in the poem the love song of J Alfred Prufrock as we read.

Although he has hidden intention to make himself loved by a beautiful woman but he himself feels insecure that the lady won’t accept him for different reasons .at the very beginning of the poem we find a contradiction among the two thinking of him- the reality and the romantic mind. As his romantic mind gets ready to go in a date his realist mind makes obstacles and says that he is not enough courage to make such a courageous deed. In the poem –

”let us go then you and I”

By this lines we can get directed that he is not secure yet to make a date when his inner mind makes obstacles, on the other hand, the romantic mind wants to make. Its one of the problems he feels in this stage that he cannot decide whether he should go or not.

In the first stanza, we see him inviting this woman to go out and spend the night in

"sawdust restaurants with oyster-shells"

"one-night cheap hotels". 

 His intentions are unclear: does he wants a serious relationship or just a one night stand? He fears being asked for clarification, and says "Let us (just) go and make our visit". If we assume that they are going to this "sawdust restaurant", then the next stanza describes it as "the room where women come and go/Talking of Michelangelo" meaning that there are a lot of women out there, but they all want a man with an ideal body. Michelangelo is used as a reference to his sculpture "David", often considered the ideal of a man's body.

His insecurities about his body and the way he looks can also be seen in the sixth stanza, where he fears that women will criticize his thin arms and legs, and reject him because of the bald spot in the middle of his hair. His insecurities extend to other situations, and although there's time to think, as described in the fourth stanza, he spends his time in a "hundred indecisions", "a hundred visions and revisions" even in the smallest of details such as the "taking of a toast and tea".

 In eight and ninth stanzas, he fears rejection once more, claiming

"I know the voices dying with dying fall".

He also fears that he might be old for these kinds of love affairs, With all this insecurities and doubts in minds, he asks himself "would it have been worth it?". He grows old, and wonders, whether he should modernize He thinks of the cause why he won’t be selected by the girls to be loved, is that he grows old day by day. And he feels that the old people are suitable to love by the young girls he is supposed to love .that is why he wishes to wear modern fashion and try to be modern and so the girls of this modern age fall in his love.

"Wear the bottoms of [his] trousers rolled"

"...part [his] hair behind".

 By using a metaphor, he compares women with seductive singing mermaids, and he believes that trying to reach them will get him to drown, which tells us how he thinks he will never get to have a serious relationship with a woman .he here utters the name of Ulysses who deserves such kind of song because he does something heroic. For not doing anything heroic he thinks of his bad lack and thinks that he won’t be loved by any beautiful women as he thinks of.